Blunt Force Truth: You’re not a bad person. You’re not being punished. What you may be experiencing however, is simply that you aren’t in complete alignment with who you really are. That’s the beatiful soul that I know! Also become aware of how conflicts serve you to spotlight your values and those of others. When a positive value is crossed, it triggers negative emotions. And those can appear to be attached to other things/actions. And this is an important lesson because the person you’re with can disempower you, cycling negativity, or empower you to see beyond the pain to the true values of love at your very core. Always give your best and you will empower those around you, breaking the cycle. 
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